emotionally intelligent people won’t…..

previous generations didn’t define emotional intelligence, but it’s an important part of any work profile these days. in fact, an article by travis bradberry on the world economic forum website says it’s crucial criteria in determining professional excellence. he defines it as

the “something” in each of us that is a bit intangible. It affects how we manage behavior, navigate social complexities, and make personal decisions that achieve positive results.

intangible means abstract, indefinable.  achieve means accomplish, get.

what’s he got? nobody knows. it’s intangible, but he’s definitely got it.

bradberry recently created a list of 9 things that emotionally intelligent people won’t do. these are some of the highlights–

  • they won’t let anyone limit their joy

u can always take people’s opinions with a grain of salt……self-worth comes from within……when emotionally intelligent people feel good about something that they’ve done, they won’t let anyone’s opinions or accomplishments take that away from them.

joy is extreme happiness. with a grain of salt is used to show doubtskepticism. or not worrying. self-worth is the value a person places on themself. take away means remove.

tequila: take it with a grain of salt. (a few grains of salt probably) and a lime. (beyondtheshaker.com)


  • they won’t forget

emotionally intelligent people are quick to forgive, but that doesn’t mean that they forget….[they] are unwilling to be bogged down unnecessarily by others’ mistakes, so they let them go quickly and are assertive in protecting themselves from future harm.

forgive and forget is a common expression, but according to bradberry, it is not what emotionally intelligent people do.  they forgive (excuse, pardon) but don’t forget. unwilling means emotionally intelligent people don’t accept it. bog down means bothered by or slow down. harm means damage.

fun english practice  richyrocks english on youtube

  • they won’t prioritize perfection

in other words, emotionally intelligent folks (people) don’t set perfection as their benchmark (primary objective). they don’t want to

end up spending [their] time lamenting what [they] failed to accomplish and what  [they]should have done differently instead of enjoying what [they] were able to achieve.

end up indicates a conclusion that comes as a result of a process. end up spending and instead of enjoying are both examples of how the -ing form of verbs must be used after prepostions. lament is regret, feel bad about. accomplish is a synonym of achieve. what they should have done is a hypotheitical scenario in the past (3rd conditional). this structure is often used to show regret.

stormtrooper lamenting

the boss made him end up lamenting what they failed to accomplish. emotional intelligence was not a priority for darth vader.


  • they won’t hang around negative people

complainers are bad news

hang around means spend time with, socialize. complainers are people who vocally express negative feelings.

nobody wants to hang around that guy. (shutterstock)


  • they won’t hold grudges

when a threat is imminent, this reaction is essential to your survival, but when a threat is ancient history, holding onto that stress wreaks havoc on your body and can have devastating health consequences over time.

hold a grudge is an idiom that meanss maintaining feelings of resentment. similarly,  hold on to means keep, not release. wreak havoc means cause damage. a threat is danger, imminent means it is inevitable and going to happen soon.

grudge match movie poster

this movie is about two old boxers who have held a grudge since they were in their prime.


  • they won’t say “yes” unless they really want to

saying no to a new commitment honors your existing commitments and gives you the opportunity to successfully fulfill them.

unless indicates that emotionally intelligent people don’t say “yes” except when they really feel it. commitment (NOT compromise) is a promise or engagementfulfill means achieve.

characteristics of emotionally intelligent people
a visual representation of emotional intelligence

how important is emotional intelligence?  what other characteristics do emotionally intelligent people have that are not included on the list?  share your views under leave a reply


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